Our cousin Jessyka just got married two weekends ago on August 24 in Indiana. When she told us her wedding was going to be on a farm, being the city girl that I am, I panicked at the idea of what to wear.
What would you wear to a barn wedding? Heels? They’d get stuck in the grass. Wedges? That’s just a twisted ankle waiting to happen to me. A dress? What kind of dress could I wear without looking too overdressed but not sundress casual?
I’ve never been to a barn wedding before so I didn’t know what to expect. When I got there, I was so glad that I chose to wear these flowy wide leg pants with a white, one shoulder bodysuit. The flowy pants gave me a classy look and the bodysuit gave me a dressy, but casual look. For accessories, I wore these hoop pearl earrings from XiXi, my velvet Gucci purse, and since the wedding was outside, I kept my cat eye Saint Laurent shades on for the most part.
For shoes I wore my black Valentino flat sandals. I figured, you can’t see my shoes anyway and if my toddler takes off, I can kick those bad boys off and start running like the wind after him. I ended up doing just that twice that night.
For Cayden, we dressed him in a Kenzo polo shirt, Ralph Lauren khaki shorts, and his Gucci loafers. Again, I wanted him to be comfortable (Kenzo top), casual (khaki pants), and dressy (Gucci loafers). All the girls and bridesmaids were dying over his shoes. He was stuntin’ on the ladies that night and he knew it too.
The bride looked so beautiful, she brought tears to all of our eyes. Prior to the wedding, she came over to us, and I almost cried (which is why I kept my shades on). She looked so much like her mom and because I had the pleasure of meeting her mom before she passed, it hit me a little different. Her mom, our Aunt Sharon, had spent time talking to me and showing me pictures on her phone of the day her fiancee had proposed to Jessyka telling me about how she was so happy for her daughter and excited for this wedding.
As if I thought I was already emotional at the sight of her, the bride chooses to walk down the isle to her mother’s favorite song “As” by Stevie Wonder. It was the same song they played at her mother’s funeral. Before she walked down the isle, my father in law held a picture of his sister and placed the picture in the bride’s mother’s chair. The bride, walked down the isle with a locket around her neck that also had a picture of her and her mother.
I watched my father in law have a tough time sitting there watching his only sibling’s daughter get married and missing her. I love Steven’s dad… a ton. So I cried watching him cry. I’m really big on family and I go out of my way for both mine and Steven’s family so I struggle watching anyone of them hurt.
The ceremony was amazing. I love how Dan loves Jessyka, the way he held her and looked at her the whole night. It really was an honor to be invited and witness such a beautiful love like theirs. I love how they tied the knot together and jumped the broom. I loved their vows to each other and how they both teared up.
The rest of the night was so much fun, but of course, any night is fun if there’s a bar around. Cayden ended up chasing after older girls getting lit off of the sweet lemonade, I was sipping on my Pinot Grigio, and Steven was going in on the soul food they served. Steven’s been to a few weddings this year and said Jessyka had beat all the weddings in the food department, including his… go figure.
My first barn wedding experience was a success! Not too bad for this city girl.