Steven and I just celebrated our 4th anniversary on December 30 at Eddie V’s in Kansas City. Four years ago on this day we, well he, decided to make it official. We had been seeing each other a little less than 2 months prior.
We didn’t start celebrating anniversaries until the second year. I feel like the first year is always the easiest because you’re still new to it, you’re taking the time to still get to know each other, and your relationship, at that point, won’t be really tested. And when I say tested, I mean REALLY tested.
The first year, the most common test is meeting the parents. It just so happened that my mom met Steven the day after making it official, getting out of midnight church service for New Years. I mean, c’mon, what mother wouldn’t approve of a man who’d rather spend New Years in church instead of a club or party?
Three months later, here I was flying out to Kansas City to meet his parents and his pastor. His parents and grandmother made me feel so welcomed. Steven’s mom is the most sweetest and genuine woman ever. Just ask around. She’s been Mama to not only myself, but even my girlfriends. His dad is the most loveable, funniest guy and I swear he should have his own standup comedy show. With that being said, you can guess that I passed the parental test!
Year one, test one, passed!
With each year after that— we’ve had our own share of tests. Even though we aren’t married, it’s a huge milestone to celebrate. Being on year 4 is a big accomplishment for me because I can honestly say I’ve never had a relationship last this long. Both of us have never been in very many relationships either so it’s equally a big deal to each of us.
I don’t think you have to wait to be married to celebrate an anniversary in your relationship. Sharing an anniversary gives you both a day to celebrate another year together. Another year that’s had its own share of tests that you passed, another year that you fought for your relationship, another year that has made your relationship stronger than last, and most of all, another year that has brought you even closer than last.
To me, our anniversary date is more romantic than any others because of its meaning behind it. Personally, it means that despite a year of being prideful, stubborn, having our share of disagreements, lazy days, stressful days, days where I make it hard to live with or even love, this man has chosen to see past all of that and still love me unconditionally.
It’s so crazy to think that on our next anniversary, we will be celebrating it as officially husband and wife!
Steven, if you ever read this, I love you more this year than the last, but not as much as I will before I take my last breath. Thank you for loving me the way that you do bae!