We just got back from our first getaway together since Cayden was born without him— can I just say separation anxiety is so real? I found myself going through his pictures on my phone any chance I could, FaceTiming my mother in law who stayed with him while we were gone every day, and thinking of him every second of every day.
I really didn’t think I was going to get it. I’ve been wanting a getaway for quite some time now but timewise, I can’t afford it. Between work, business, planning Cayden’s first birthday, and planning a wedding, to say I’m busy is an understatement. I did, however, promise myself that we were going to get back to our beach baecations as soon as the wedding is over.
So for this time, we chose Vegas.
Even though we were only one state away, I felt like he was much further and I honestly couldn’t be more happy to be back. For someone who doesn’t like to show emotion, I couldn’t hide how much I was missing Cayden.
Although this trip was quick, we did need it. We were able to do things like sleep in, enjoy each other’s company completely without getting interrupted with diaper changes, feedings, teething, crying, or the constant watchful eye of a crawling 10 month old, and a change of environment. Because we were only there Thursday-Sunday we used our time wisely.
What did we do?
The whole point of our Vegas trip was to attend a live podcast, The Joe Budden Podcast. We found out they were on a little tour run and Vegas was one of their stops. Steven put me on when I first started dating him and it’s something we both really enjoy and listen to every week.
If you’re not listening to them, you’re missing out BIG TIME. You will laugh your ass off at how Mal and Joe go at each other. Caution: If you listen to it at work, make sure your volume is low because Joe thoroughly enjoys hitting that gunshot button on his soundboard.
Another reason I wanted to head to Vegas was for Black Tap. I’ve seen their burgers and shakes all over Instagram and I just had to get my hands on them. I ordered a burger with onion rings and Steven ordered the wings and fries.
The burger was hands down, the best one I’ve ever had. The onion rings were massive and so freakin’ good, I only ate 2 of them because I knew I wanted to save room for the main event… The Cotton Candy Strawberry Shake. Yes those are chocolates pearls stuck on the side, topped with a lollipop, and 2 rock candy lollipops.
I swear it felt like I was working on it forever and couldn’t make a dent in it.
The staff was extremely friendly, our waiter was fantastic, and the service was perfect. The owner and manager came over to me while I looked over the menu waiting to be seated to invite me to check out the shake bar. I swear I need one of these at home.
Another reason to eat here— they’ve got cute Instagrammy backgrounds for pictures. We lucked out and were able to enjoy the patio thanks to the overcast on Saturday. I don’t think I would be able to do it in the typical Vegas summer heat.
The whole time we were there I just kept thinking, “I can’t wait to bring my little guy in a couple of years so I can see his face when I get him one of these giant shakes”. It’s definitely on my list of things to do with him.
The rest of the trip was just as low key. We went to the movie theatres at the Palms hotel and met up with my bestie for dinner at Lotus of Siam, I love Thai food and this place was amazing.
We were about to reserve a table at one of the nightclubs on our last night there but I knew I should take advantage of our that night with the thing I can’t get at home—sleep. I figured since I already turned all the way up on Thursday for my bestie’s birthday I didn’t need to do it again (we left the hotel room at 9 PM and didn’t get back until 5 AM).
We ended up going back to the room, having some mommy and daddy time, and falling asleep by midnight. We woke up the next morning at 10 in time for our flight. Let’s just say ever since we’ve been back, I’ve pretty much been joined at the hip with Cayden.
In a nutshell, this is what I learned about myself on my first time away from baby:
- Without Cayden, I felt like something was missing. It was a really odd feeling.
- The alone time was much needed. I felt like we were on a long extended date that reminded me of our getaways before baby.
- I came back glowing (at least thats what mother in law said).
- I’m not the party girl I once was. I would much rather be at home with my two boys than at a VIP table, which is so weird to me!
- Even in a different state, I never stop thinking about work and business and I don’t know how to shut it off (*insert face slap emoji here).